Tuesday, August 17, 2010

8-17-10

Today has been amazing. I spent quite a time w/my Savior this morn.
I also read in 2 cor.
Paul is amazing to me. I love, love reading about his life and times.

So yesterday hubby and I had a long conversation coming home from the hospital pre-paying for his surgery on friday. The trip lasted about 1 hr. so we definitely talked.
We just shared our hearts about the journey we are on and how much we are little sick inside that not much has happened and we are NOT where we thought we would be by now.
We are really hoping the we are not in the same place next year at this time cause its pretty depressing.
We also shared our hearts about how much we seem to have so much suffering with this journey.
Our journey to adopt has been one rough ride.
It appears that when others do it- it just works out for them and when we step out every time we get hung up and put out to dry and are left without.
It has been really hard to take, and really hard to keep the faith.
We would quit but where would we go???
Peter asked Jesus the same thing- Where Lord should I go?
As for me and my house we will serve the Lord..... enough said

So today reading in 2 Cor. I find Paul saying this- If I must boast, I would rather boast about the things that show how weak I am.

That is powerful to me... Yes that is it! All this suffering really makes us feel weak. Why? Well I won't pretend to have all the answers. Maybe b/c we are not in control?? I think for me that is where it is. Control.

Oh Father forgive me...

Paul also says- We are pressed on every side by troubles, but we are not crushed and broken, We are perplexed, but we don't give up and quit.
We are hunted down, but God never abandons us.
We get knocked down, but we get up again and keep going.

Through suffering, these bodies of ours constantly share in the death of Jesus so that the life of Jesus may also be seen in our bodies.
WOOOOOOHOOOOOOO!
Enough said- we are NOT QUITTING!

He also writes- That is why we never give up. Though our bodies are dying, our spirits are being renewed everyday. Yep!!

So today we are renewed! Hallelujah Jesus it's all for YOU anyway.
I leave w/ one thought-

At the end of the day- I want to know that I still have a place at the feet of Jesus, praising and worshipin my faithful Savior King cause HE IS WORTHY!

Grace, Grace

Monday, August 16, 2010

Aug. 16, 2010

Well today I wrote 2 checks that wiped out our " adoption fund " and it was really miserable. It was miserable b/c it wasn't for an adoption. We have been saving and saving only to see our hopes and dreams fade to crisis situation and therefore a need and there goes the adoption fund. This has happened over and over for the last 5 yrs. Yah! I said it not 1 yr. but 5 yrs. Today was so depressing. It has been really difficult somewhat torturous for us to watch most of our friends and acquaintances thrive in life doing what we long and dream to do. Adopt kids. We have been on one long and winding bumpy road. So long that it literally feels as if it just isn't going to happen for us.. at least that is what the devil is reminding us all thru the days and nights.

Today is especially hard when we know that we have to let loose of the money we have a special purpose for. It doesn't really matter what the money went to. It did go to meet a medial need so we know at least it really did matter and I guess at least we had it when we needed it, it just stinks when it feels like the devil may have caused the crisis and stole the money b/c we were getting close to using it...... we were!

It also stinks to have this reveal that my heart still thinks money matters. I am really bothered by the way I feel about not having the money in our lives to use for an adoption. The thing is we don't even have any children to adopt. We are still waiting to hear if we are of the few families selected to be chosen for the sibling group we appealed for.

Most of you aren't aware of how the foster care system and the adoption system work in our nation. You see there are hundreds of thousands of children in the foster care system in our nation these kids' pictures and a profile are created and their workers put together a file for the adoption unit to use. Now some of the workers profile their case loads on a the web like adopt us kids dot org. Others don't they send their profiles to other workers in their areas to see if they are aware of adoptive parents in the system to make referrals. So most of the time alot of the children's profiles are never sent to the families waiting and waiting to adopt.

We have an adoption specialist in our county that works for us. She has indicated to us that her job is somewhat hard to do b/c she isn't aware of that many adoptive workers in other counties so she is not getting profiles of children needing families. Bummer right! Well there are websites like adopt us kids and then adoption exchange that actually help adoptive parents get profiles of children that represent similarities to your family and families harmonies. These are great resources for families cause there seems to be a real lack of intention w/ the system...... I have often wanted to write our governor and ask him if we the state of missouri were really that interested in finding families for the children lingering in foster care? Are we as a state really serious about adoption of the kiddos in families cause there seems to be a real lack going on....

Back on us- so how this works is this. We seen the kids' profiles on a website where we could read about the children. Short profiles is what they call it and sometimes a picture. We then email our worker and request to inquire about these kids. Our specialist takes the name and number of the adoption worker for the kids and emails he/she. We then receive via email what is called ' long profile' about each child if in a sibling group. We then get to know the children even more and then decided whether your family would be a good resource for the them. We then request for our homestudy to be sent to the worker. At this point we have our homestudy sent but we are 1 in about 100 or more. The worker or workers involved allow sufficient time for families to send their studies in however the time frame is not known to any of us waiting. This literally can take months. yes Months. As if these kids have not waited long enough. They wait. So do we, the families that wait all this time, hoping and praying that you are selected as the family. If we are selected they select a few like 30 families then they regroup meet and from the 30 they decide on like 8 families and they schedule interviews with these remaining 8. Once the interviewing is done which again can take months, they then select 3 families. The remaining 3 families will then go into what they call staffing. This includes interviews with the family, children and all the workers involved. Then the judge hears the case and he rules which family will ultimately be the children's future. All this takes time and a long time at that. We are still in the waiting stage. Waiting to see if we are selected as one of the 30 or so families. So that means we still a l-o-n-g way to go.

When we stop long enough to think about the process it kind of makes us really want to give up right at the beginning b/c for real. Who has that much patience??? I need Jesus!!!! cause I don't have the patience. It drives me nutty just thinking about the kiddos waiting. The thing is the kids probably don't even know this is going on. They don't ask and the workers sure don't bring it up, I'm sure. Except for the teenagers. You gotta know they are asking. It must be really difficult for them.

The children we are hoping to become part of our family is 8,7, 2 and 6 mos. Yes! 4 children. they are beautiful children and their profiles reflect that they would fit right in to our family really well. It is harder than life waiting though to find out yes or no. We have submitted our homestudy for several, did you hear me- several children. Several sibling groups. Several singletons and several times we have waited months like 6 or more only to hear ..................
nothing! That's right nothing. They don't email the workers back a sorry letter to families no nothing. One day you'll just see a little message on the website their listed with and it will say family in progress or on hold. Then you know. YOU ARE NOT THE FAMILY CHOSEN!

It is a huge let down and when that happens and it has several times. You and your family are broken and then angry. Angry that months of your life was wasted on waiting. Angry that the system made you wait so long. Angry that the workers must be wrong in their choices. Right??

It really does make us understand the overwhelming rise in International Adoption. There is alot of controversy about adopt here or there or anywhere. My take on that is adopt where you are led to. Adoption is a very personal journey. You have to be certain you know where your willing to go and do what you are willing to do. For us- International Adoption is just not for us. The biggest reason is travel. It just doesn't fit our family. Our heart beat.

If we ever did decide to adopt Internationally, we would like a program like the Korea Program. Some of the high points to the Korea Prgm are:
We liked that not only did you not have to travel you could escort.

You also didn't have to have the involvement of a dossier. They are just mentally intimidating to me. Probably b/c both me and my husband have been married before. Too much paperwork. The other benefit of the Korean Program was the 1 fee. There was a fee to the whole process not pay this much here, and this much there. You know when you are paying this here and paying this there later. You really are not aware " how much money you are really paying ". We don't like this. You end up paying alot more then you think. We like the concept of paying the fee once and final.
That is just my opinion. just sayin

Even though we paid for the medical crisis we had, we are still hopeful that we will see the salvation of our LORD in the land of the living. Even though we are broken hearted we will still keep believing that someday it will happen for us. Someday we will be the parents of who? and how many? Until then our faith will continue to be tested. At the end of the day though, after our faith is tested it is proved to be true. We still believe that our Father's heartbeat is for orphans and HE sets them in families. We can believe that HE longs to bring our hearts desires into our journey b/c HE knows the truth in our worship when we have nothing. How much greater will our worship be when we arrive on that day. God longs to be glorified. He longs for us to glorify Him boldly. He longs for us to glorify Him always. He knows that we celebrate HIM even when we are defeated by the no word. We have to believe in HIM- where else would we go????? After all it's HIM! WE REALLY WANT!!!

Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Hello Again!!

Well Hello!
Yes it has been awhile since we talked. hehe
All is well with us Jensen's. We have been seriously taken over by 2 lil girls that came to our home in November. These precious treasures are foster children and so b/c of laws and regulations we are not able to talk publicly re: the girls. So for now I will tell you that we have been pleasantly surprised by this journey. Nothing is what it seems is it???? We have been really busy-life is day by day.

We still have the same dream tucked in our hearts....waiting.......waiting........ the greatest stinking thing is we are so excited to see what????? god is going to do. We know it will happen, it will be like heaven on earth for us-so we wait!!!!!

We sure have had alot happen in just the last few months. We celebrated Thanksgiving together w/all the kids.

We have been given the privilege of becoming grandparents to our first grandchild in July. Its so exciting for us-our daughter is having her first baby:~) Everything is going really well for her also which helps.

Our daughter that started college this fall-well she got married in Feb. to a really good guy who happen to be her best friend:-)

Our 19 yr.old daughter moved into her own apt. and has been working in town and she really enjoys her job. She has meet a guy @ work and they are getting along really well, dating and having alot of fun.

Then there's the next daughter in line and we are getting all the preparations made for her graduation and entrance into college for nursing this fall.
Spring is finally here and what a welcome sight for all.

Our son is STILL waiting on brothers:-W the poor kid he is still surrounded by girls, girls, girls. He wants a skateboarding buddy really bad.

Last but not last is our youngest daughter who wanted to be a big sister and got her want. Now she is trying to learn balance-when both new sisters' want to play w/just her. yeah tricky isn't it. She does a really good job of meeting their needs......which is minute by minute w/ a 3 and 5 yr. old. hehe

Life is a joy, we give the Lord the Glory! the Honor! and All the Praise!! We just celebrated Easter- oh I wish I could post pics the girls' looked so darn cute in their dresses. They were so excited to wear them it was humbling to be a part of it......we all went to our church family that morning. They were darling. We had a glorious time celebrating w/both our church family and then later that day w/my husbands family. The girls got to participate in an Easter egg hunt, they did so well. Smiles from ear to ear. As parents our quiver was full as we lay our heads down on fluffy pillows that night and rehearsed the day's account of happenings. What blessings we have in our lives day in and day out. OH LORD what an honor to walk this journey w/YOU!

Well friends stay happy-choose love towards one another-smile to one another-share the joys and the sorrows w/one another and above all praise one another

Grace and Blessings

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

WOW time flies

Hello Friends-



I can't believe how fast time flies. I haven't blogged now for about 4 mos. We have been extremly busy with all the Lords Blessings. I must confess, there is alot that has happened to us since we last talked. So, if your not busy w/ laundry, cooking, baking, bathing, or excercising grab a cup of your favorite bev. and take a load off. Lot's to say here.





Where should I begin? How about I just tell you what's happening right at this moment and then I will back track and spill the stuff from the last 4 mos. Right now I am listening to the sound of a little girl talking my leg off. * gigling inside * I love the sound of tiny voices, I love the sound of young voices. My youngest right now is 3. She is coloring in her new coloring book and talking to me the whole time. (she is completely unaware that I am blogging) She has a sister also and she is 5. She happens to be outside playing w/ Vallan. We finally have seen the sun today at just before 5 pm. The bigger kids are taking advantage of it. The temp. is 56* wow- that does seem like spring but don't get to excited b/c the last I heard we are suppose to get snow Sat. and they reported an accumilation of snow- so we will be expecting inches, i guess?? We live in Missouri so this is just normal seasonal chaos.





Our family has grown some. We have an additional 2 kiddos living in our home. These girls are foster children and they originally came to us as an emergency placement and now they have been here for almost 4 mos. That is where " my " time has gone. wew it sure has



Last time I blogged we were just about to start an international adoption for a little boy in Ukraine. We got the call for the girls and everything went in the opposite direction. Who would have thought. Instead of gathering paperwork to be sent as a dossier, we have been gathering paperwork from doctors, schools, therapists, etc.



The thing is- we just were praying that we would be used for the Kingdom of God and when you pray that- well you just never know what you will end up doing. Now we did have some idea as too fostering b/c we had to attend classes and then have a homestudy compiled about our family and then we had training and such, so after all this we did have some idea that we would eventually foster children. We didn't know that we would be fostering instead of adopting.



We didn't decide to take this leap of faith easily and we sure were excited. It's funny how things work out sometimes where we were putting in all the effort to complete all the necessary steps so we would be a licensed adoptive home for Missouri and then just like that we got a call-all of a sudden we were heading in a different direction all together. Foster care is very much different that adoption. There is whole different dynamic that happens in your family when you foster children vs adopt them. There would be lots to say here however I will not. I believe it would take us somewhere else in this conversation if I were to begin that discussion so I will refrain.

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Veteran's Day!

In Remembrance to All Those Who Served, and Continue to Serve Our Nation! Thank You! From my family to Yours- Thank You- You sacrificed, Your families sacrificed for my freedom, my families freedoms. Today because of YOU I can blog about MY FEELINGS, I can Say the name of JESUS outloud, I can read about the news around the world, I can PRAY OUTLOUD TO JESUS, I can travel either here or there, I can wear clothing that represents me, I can vote and I am a woman, a mom to how ever many children God gives me, I can homeschool my children, I live in the greatest Nation of all, I am forever an American Citizen. Land of the FREE, Home of the BRAVE. THANK YOU
Thank You
thank you!
Father I pray for all the military men and women, their families, friends, the Leaders of our great Nation, our President- our Government - what a magnificent Nation we are. Father I ask that above all YOU would keep them safe as they maintain our safety. That you would Guide them w/YOUR wisdom by the HOLY SPIRIT. That Understanding and Knowledge her sisters would also give them direction and discernment. Father Your Word says You will bless those who bless us so by Your Word Lord Bless These who continue to Bless Us day in and day out.
In Jesus' Name
Amen
Amen

Monday, November 9, 2009

Sunday- my journey to Gethsedemy Experience

Well Sunday Morning Church was very fulfilling. Our Pastor spoke about forgiveness and 70x7. He is writing a book about this and teaching us along w/it- I can't wait until it's out. It is going to be great! I hope it comes out towards the New Year 2010. I don't think I can wait past then. He did such a beautiful job on the message Sunday. The scripture he focused us on was- Grace and Favor meet-Justice and Mercy kiss. (note to self-look up). Beautiful job! I can't say enough about it. I won't though. I think that if were to tell what the message meant to me then perhaps that might take away from what you may get out the message. So I will just say I think you all need to go to wolc.com and click on media at the top-choose archives and select Sunday's date-11-08-09 and watch it online. It is so good you will literally be chewing while listening to the message. I did. It ok- chewing is good.hehe



Yesterday was a particularly tough on me.

Saturday, November 7, 2009

Happenings!

Well I had originally intended to blog before now as with life and happenings I got to busy. So in this one post I am going to combine all of our happenings into one. We have had a birthday to celebrate in our home, Vallan turned 9 this Nov. 1, 2009. I can hardly believe it. We also celebrated w/our church family - 28 yrs. of Word Of Life Church on Nov. 1st. I will be posting pics of these following this post. We also have been celebrating w/some families that are very dear to ours hearts, their healing. Jesus is amazing! Our family prays and our Lord answers. He does indeed. Not just for us, let me clarify this I don't mean that b/c it's our family that prays that God answers them, NO I know well better than that. Anyone can pray and God will answer them.

Prayers are Holy unto the Lord, He longs for us to communicate w/Him. Share our hearts, joys, life's tragedy's, dreams, passions, and victories! Prayer is as Holy as going to church, sowing seeds by faith, tithing, encouraging others, healing and Water Baptisms. In fact, the Word tells us:

So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and in his good time he will honor you. Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about what happens to you! 1Peter 5: 6-7

We are so very thankful this holiday season that we are together as a family, we have health, love, prosperity is ours and above all we have Christ the Savior of the world as our LORD & KING!

If you have prayer requests leave me a comment or email me and our family will pray for your needs to be met. Philippians 4:19

And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from His Glorious Riches, which have been given to us in Christ Jesus. Now Glory be to God our Father forever and ever.
Amen
Amen