There always seems to be a debate between birth moms and adoptive moms about the Real-ness of their honor.

This particularly grieves my heart terribly. There is a scripture that says something about people parish for lack of vision. This topic serves that scripture well. There really is alot more that we as a people could learn from this "lack of vision",  between moms. We can cause a person to parish emotionally if we are not careful. So we really need to treat everyone with dignity and respect for all participation in life.

My friend was told that she was not a real mom b/c she had not birthed a child.  Now, this really hits so very close to my heart that upon hearing it I want to throw a fit.

My friend- I would say to you that YOU are a mom and so is a woman that gave birth. YOU are an Exceptional mom! God made an exception for you! Not that it would exclude one mom vs another. Rather to expand the love that both of you have to give. This is what I see:

I see Jesus standing there, arms open wide. I see room on both sides of HIM. The left and the right. Not one side is Holier than the other or more or less honorable. He doesn't just leave the room before Him wide open HE begins to close it. Bringing all to the left and all to the right before Him. Folding His arms close to His heart. Above is HIS FACE shining! the God-head Trinity! There's room! He says. All of this is possible b/c of HIM. He brings together moms of this world, all for kingdom purposes. He doesn't stand to divide. He says there's room for all.

Let's look in John 19: 26-30

When Jesus saw his mother standing there beside the disciple he loves, he said to her, " Woman, he is your son." And he said to this disciple, "She is your mother." And from then on this disciple took her into his home.

So this tells me that adoption is VERY close to the HEART OF OUR LORD, JESUS! He proclaimed it on the cross! Adoption was birthed again in the New Testament as well as in the Old Testament. Jesus tells us so on Calvary!

So my friend, I would say the same to you as Jesus did."Woman, he is your son, She is your mother".
Please go and read the scriptures in John for yourself. Let the words of Jesus heal both your hearts. I pray the love so freely given to you both will also break down the walls between you and heal you both and together you both can go great things for the kingdom. That's what we are called to do, anyway. Aren't we!